Based on my experience, I think the above are good guidelines to improve your odds of getting the conversation going.
Here’s my short 4-point list of easy to follow ideas: This is an example of how sometimes profiles are too short and give you no clues to who the person is.
You can learn more details on my thoughts on this service in my article on How e Harmony Works.
No matter what service you choose, I hope my advice here will help you with your first messages.
Online dating certainly is a grab bag of experiences. I like to start with the negatives so we can end on a high note. The solution: Stick to people in your league/level from their looks, age, occupation, location — it will increase your chances.
On the one hand, you hear horror stories of psychos and unsolicited d*** pics, and on the other hand, you personally know several couples who have met and married over the thing. You’re never reminded of the fallibility of human kind as you are when you are online dating. And don’t put stock into anything or anyone until you’ve met. The paradox of choice teaches us that the more options we have, the unhappier we are and the more paralyzed we become to choose. Sure there are lots of people online and the grass can always feel greener for another date.
And remind yourself that you just have to find one good one. At first it sounds fun to shop around for new folks, but then you get eye-strain and realize everyone sounds the same and you can’t tell if you like them. Everything in moderation — just like the good doctor tells you. There are companies like mine that take the weight off. Everybody gets rejected or neglected at one time or another online.